I cannot go on this way.
Feeling like I am a
third class
wrong
sub-human
all the time.
Feeling like I still
constantly
have to
apologize,
for just being me.
Feeling like I am always just
fit in to other people’s
very tight schedules
No one wants
to be around me for too long
Because I am so wrong
I’m tooo much of
a bummer
and Debbie Downer
in their world
I’m a mistake
A fucking
M I S T A K E
God should have never created me
I am Never able to
see the ocean or Pismo waterfront
anymore
the beautiful sunsets, clouds and rainbows
or even the 101 freeway
Today I have no extra money
to turn around with
or
to even save up for a rainy day
I am deep in debt because
what I get from
my late father’s
Social Security Survivor’s benefits
is not enough at all
for me to thrive on or even live on
I have never been able to work
due to my
mental disabilities
the lymphedema I developed in 2005
my autism
the
large
lymphedema lump
on my left inner thigh
and now end stage kidney disease
most in my family
have even thrown me away
My life has been
One long string of
Disappointment,
rejection
and
trauma after trauma after trauma
due to being
always misunderstood as a Behavior
and also thousands upon thousands
of unmet, unachieved
dreams and goals
I have had for my whole life
of being able to see New York City
and the whole Northeastern US
As for people
People still
Harshly
take their moods out on me
talk snotty to me and
any old way they want
and expect me
to smile, take it, and go away quietly
some still even hate it
that I make my noises
and
that I still get hyper-excited over shiny hair
many people get to know me
and then I am taken advantage of
and when I present too many problems
they cruelly
yell at me
and then they
throw me away in the garbage
I feel as if I am never going to be okay
that I will never be good enough
in other people’s eyes
that I will always live a life of poverty
till the day I die
I’m just a burden
And a problem
and
I cause
too many problems
for others
My meltdowns are inconvenient
I am all wrong
Broken
Faulty
Just the fact that I
even breathe the air
is wrong
and a sin
I tell them I’m autistic
which I am
very much autistic
and that I
am hyper-sensitive
and
have very real sensory issues
with
changes
and even having people
just walk out of the room abruptly
without letting me know why
they are leaving my space
and it doesn’t matter
they still cruelly tell me
I am
using my autism as an excuse
or worse yet
that I am faking it
None of you
who expect normal from me
know
how much or
how deeply this hurts me!
Well…..
I am not able to do your normal
I do not have the filters to do
the normal
at all
that y’all want from me
I am unable to stop repeating myself
I am unable to stop dwelling
on all of this neurotypical
unpleasant shit that comes at me
24 fucking 7
I am tired
of all the unfulfilled dreams
still going unfulfilled
and I am
Fucking tired
of all y’all
wanting me to be any different
than the unique goofy silly
traumatized me
I know how to be.
If I cannot find people in my life
who will
not only accept me,
but embrace my all
both the good,
bad, and ugly
and goofy silly too
I have no more business being here
No, I will not ever harm myself
However, I am in a constant state of
feeling like packing my blue Davita bag
and running far away
precisely because
of the glaringly apparent
major disappointment I seem to be
to everyone around me.
That person who left the ugly comment is a condescending asshole. I’m sorry they took time out of their day just to be shitty to you.
You have every right to want to be understood. I think most autistic people want that and adding the many traumas that you’ve experienced just magnifies those feelings. And there is nothing wrong with wanting that!
I know that you already know this, but you do not need to forgive anyone just because they are related to you.
I also am really mad she wrote “please think of your health” like she gives a damn about it! Wow. What a jerk.
I’m so sorry Melissa. Your true friends know that you are kind and compassionate and loving. And that you can call out ableism and still be all of those things!
Thank you, Lei. ❤ ❤ ❤
I did find out it was a bot who is well-known for harrassing and cyber abuse, so they are blocked now, and I will keep on blocking them.
A person named “Mary White” commented on this blog post….I will post the comment here, copied and pasted to let y’all know *THIS* is the core basis for why I am still so angry at the age of 62 years….
Is precisely because of shallow people like “Mary White” who do not get it, who will never get it, and therefore, why I have the anger and trust issues I have today. “Mary White, it’s called C-PTSD trauma.
My family treated me like this all of my growing up years, so yeah, Ima be angry…it’s part of the trauma I’ve experienced as an Autistic person growing up in an unaccepting family…. and this is how years of unresolved trauma works.
You evidently never really and truly read [present tense] any of my blogs, but even if you did, you are so stuck in your ways, you still ain’t gonna get it.
By the way, I suspect I know you too, Mizz White….
Here’s her comment, with paragraph breaks; because it was a huge wall of text, I had to break it up for accessibility.
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Melissa, I do not even know where to begin. This was sent to me by one of your friends, for me to read. I have known about you for many years now. I do not know whether to feel sorry for you or the people who might read all your many complaints in life.
As I see it, you have complained your Entire life about your family and how people treat you, and that is sad!! You have wasted your entire life, what, some 60 plus years?
Being angry and mad at your family or people that just do not get you!! I guess I do feel sorry for you at some point, but only because you have spent your whole life writing about all the mean and bad people in your life.
This is so hard to write this to you, as there is so many things wrong with how you are treating yourself and your life, not to mention your very health!!
You say you are a nice loving person, but I have not seen that part of you, only hate and anger!
Time is getting so short in this world, time that should be spent loving yourself and forgiving your family, forgive and forget and leave all the sadness behind you.
Heck I would have been a friend to you, but frankly, you scare me. If you do not get your way, it’s the highway for anyone that gets in the [ We don’t get you way]
You spend way too much time trying to get people to [get you]. I wish you would just forgive and get on with your life, only you can make it a happy life!
I would love to see you happy instead of being so angry all the time. Please think of your health.
Bring Jesus into your life and heart. People cannot all be that bad to you all the time. Be happy, enjoy your life Melissa, May God bless you and always be there for you!
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Have a nice day, Mizz White. I blocked ya.
Furthermore, Mary White, do you know that because of my life experiences I—-daily—-have suicidal ideations?
Suicide ideations so real I //want to// but I never do, because of the friends I do happen to have who DO get me and get why I write what I write.
Because of my deep faith…yeah. I do happen to follow Jesus Christ…no, not Your Republican Jesus…I follow the Jesus who is in the Bible…and He was a Democratic Socialist….I will never harm myself.
I do happen to love the fierce person I am today. I care deeply about social justice and humankind having freedom.
But I guess your MAGA-tized hatred of me is so deep you cannot see that. You never could see that, T, and it shows.